Not sure what you mean by receiver here -- receiver as in the database or another component in your software hierarchy? The best way to ensure that your data goes unchanged across atomically disparate events is to insist that (Oracle, which is what I use in enterprise) lock the row. The easiest way is to use SELECT ... FOR UPDATE. The cursor you receive will have all the SELECTed rows locked until you close the cursor -- by commit or rollback. This will ensure that nobody can change your data whilst you're messing around with it, even if your goal is never to actually modify it, but merely capture a snapshot of the data. Obviously, if you have a lot of different processes hitting the same data they will block and wait for the lock to free (though this behaviour can be changed) so depending on what you're doing this may not be the most efficient way, though it certainly is the most transactionally safe way. Another way is to use Oracle's ORA_ROWSCN which is, greatly simplified, incremented for a row when that row is changed. So: read your data incl. its ORA_ROWSCN and when you update only update if the ORA_ROWSCN is the same. A similar approach could be done with Oracle's auditing or a simple timestamp mechanicm, but you obviously lose some of the atomicity from doing it that way.
> I've done work with ERP systems and having the ability to query against arbitrary points in time would be amazing.
You can do that in Oracle. You can SELECT temporally; so you could tell the DB to give you the state of the select query 5 minutes ago, subject to 1) flashback being enabled; and 2) the logs still having the temporal data.
Another way is to use an audit log table to store changes to data. We use this all the time in accounting/finance apps as people fiddling with invoices and bank account numbers must be logged; you can either CREATE TRIGGER your way to a decent solution, or use Oracle's built-in auditing version which is actually REALLY advanced and feature rich!
N.B.: I do not use other databases so my knowledge of them is limited, but it should give you some ideas at least!