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0 pointswffurr10mo ago0 comments

That has a much higher activation energy than checking a feed, and only works in smaller groups. If you are checking across groups, you are managing N group chats and texting all of them.

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jjulius10mo ago

> If you are checking across groups, you are managing N group chats and texting all of them.

Exactly! I have different groups of friends and acquaintances with different tastes, interests, senses of humor, etc.

I appreciate moving between them and interacting directly with them very much. It never feels like I'm "managing" anything, nor does it feel like work. It feels like community.

GuinansEyebrows10mo ago

Friendship takes intent and commitment! We don’t need social media, we just need to want to maintain relationships.

amelius10mo ago

An events app is just a simple tech solution for optimizing the number of opportunities to work on those relationships. Just like a calendar is a tech solution for making appointments.

Nothing wrong with that.

jjulius10mo ago

I would hardly call, given the age and history of use of them, a calendar a "tech solution".

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jjulius10mo ago

> If you are checking across groups, you are managing N group chats and texting all of them.

Exactly! I have different groups of friends and acquaintances with different tastes, interests, senses of humor, etc.

I appreciate moving between them and interacting directly with them very much. It never feels like I'm "managing" anything, nor does it feel like work. It feels like community.

GuinansEyebrows10mo ago

Friendship takes intent and commitment! We don’t need social media, we just need to want to maintain relationships.

amelius10mo ago

An events app is just a simple tech solution for optimizing the number of opportunities to work on those relationships. Just like a calendar is a tech solution for making appointments.

Nothing wrong with that.

jjulius10mo ago

I would hardly call, given the age and history of use of them, a calendar a "tech solution".

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