Yes, housing is more expensive. A lot more. Everything else is way cheaper.
I will say though that travel is the main one that’s obviously independent of where you live (at least mostly). So that’s kind of nice.
I've lived a thousand lives, spent most of the time as true quality time with people I love, and I still have a few years left in this decade of my life.
And I'm still further ahead, financially speaking, than >99% of other people my age. (To those asking, I tripled down on life after getting a remote job.)
The one year I spent 9-5 in an office as a traditional SWE was by far the quickest and least eventful year of my life. Also probably the saddest.
I'm very glad I just said "no" and walked away and simply lived. It was absolutely worth the risk. I would never trade these years for the ability to buy a house in the Bay Area suburbs.
I probably will be able to do that anyways, if I want to, even though I don't.