And after a couple years even Postgres is struggling because the amount of queries is too massive because of abstractions that don’t lend themselves to optimization.
Also it’s how you have codebases that could be maintained by two or three suddenly needing dozens because the testing suite needs hours to run and people even celebrate when there’s no tests in sight.
Just anecdotal personal experience. But I saw this happening inside at least 4 successful companies that started with Rails but didn’t care about those problems, and ended up wanting/having to move to something else.