Where do you SSH to? You need to install sshd on that system somewhere, somehow? Your preferred software seems easier to install, and it is, for you. Others don't have the same experience though.
How do you configure apps on your phone to use a socks proxy?
We could rathole on what constitutes "a lot" easier, but that doesn't seem interesting so I'll just point out that there's a Tailscale app for Apple TV.