None of the bulbs I've had (which have been a pretty wide mixture: Proprietary clown, proprietary local wifi, matter wifi, esphome wifi, zigbee) have that problem.
I just turn them off and back on one time using the switch, and the light bulb's state goes to some variation of "on" within no more than a second or two (maybe not an ideal variation of "on", but good enough to get through a dark hallway). Turn back off with the switch, and it's obviously off. On the next "on" cycle of the switch, it goes back to "on".
And while it is freshly "on", it's trying to reconnect to whatever its programmed mothership is (whether local or afar). This works every time, so far in my experience, as long as that mothership is reachable.
The only time blinkey-mode has been imparted is when I've reset things, which takes rapid iterations of off-on cycling of the light switch. (I test this all the time with the Zigbee bulb in my pantry because the light switch in there sure is convenient. It works fine, even if it has been completely off for hours or days. I just tested it again after pulling the USB zigbee dongle from HA, and the pantry light still worked fine with the switch on the wall.)
I've moved these bulbs and other widgets between houses. No issues (other than renaming things after a move). It's really been OK.
Additional background: For Zigbee in particular, I'm doing that in what is probably the least-preferred, least-effort method: I've got a cheap Chinese CC2531 dev kit that is flashed with different firmware (because that was the cheapest approach ~5 years ago), and I'm using it with ZHA in HA (because that's the easiest approach). All of my Zigbee devices have been buttons or light bulbs, all of those bulbs have been from Sengled, and none of any of them support Zigbee router mode at all. There is no Zigbee "mesh" here to speak of at all, so there's no weird interconnections to break: Endpoints talk directly with the CC2531 and that's that.
Other than some range issues (which were broadly resolved by using an old-school non-3.0 USB extension that I found on Amazon in iMac-esque coloration for a dollar), Zigbee has really been OK for me.
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But I've been migrating to wifi, anyway. My favorite light bulbs, from Athom, actually come to me with open-source ESPHome already installed...but Matter-wifi light bulbs are often a bit less expensive than those are. (Tradeoffs.)
This migration started on the basis that my old Zigbee bulbs are -- well -- old. They simply don't produce the same quality CRI that even very cheap dumb department store LEDs do these days.
Besides, I've also already built a quite lovely wifi network for my home, wherein I do not care at all about the performance of the 2.4GHz radios at all so they may as well focus their energy on a sea of IoT devices.
I like the idea of having only one set of wireless networking gear to futz with and optimize instead of having multiples of them. (But I'll probably goof around with Matter-Thread, too, if/when that makes sense to me. I'm by no means done tinkering or learning new things.)