> they push Nato to the border of Russia
No, former Soviet satellite states begged and pleaded for NATO membership. And their immediate Western neighbors advocates for it.
They didn't do that because the US asked them to. They were motivated by other concerns.
The US does bad things, yes, but the death toll is nothing like Stalin or Mao.
And the US don't tend to stick around occupying a country for half a decade.
I wouldn't dare to justify this. But it's not the same as Russia or China.