I'm in Monroe (not far from Trumbull). Moved from Manhattan 2 or 3 months ago, but I'm very much in the same place as you; I love it here, but it's a bit isolating. I don't know how close you are to NESIT (hackerspace up near Waterbury) but I've heard some good things about it from friends; planning on heading up there and giving a little talk soon. There's another hackerspace somewhere on the Eastern side of the state, but don't recall where.