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0 pointsbutILoveLife2d ago0 comments

Ive seen the opposite in some people.

I know a ~55ish year old lady who is beautiful, but looks 55. I see her adjusting to her new reality and its painful. I imagine she used to be able to get away with being mean and sarcastic because she was so hot.

Now it just causes office fights. "I wont work with X" is something Ive heard.

The interesting part is that I originally only worked with her on the phone, so I always thought she was mean... Then I saw her in person and everything clicked.

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watwut2d ago

Problem with that story is that you "imagine" her to have history to match your ideas about how people behave, but you do not really know her history.

norome2d ago

plenty of mean and sarcastic ugly people around too

newsclues2d ago

Some ugly people are mean because they are ugly and take their frustrations out on the world.

Some pretty people are mean because they can get away with it and never learned that it's often counterproductive in the long term.

This is just some people, others act differently.

bombcar2d ago

They often have "other reasons" people put up with it - even just being the office attack dog you sic on annoying customers will make you a valuable team member.

wakawaka282d ago

In my opinion, a lot of ugly people start off by trying to be nice, then gradually become more bitter and cynical the more they have to take shit from other people. At least I feel like that has happened to me, and I'm not even so ugly (imho). The amount of gaslighting I've put up with from everyone over the years has really been infuriating and has led me to a lot of misery in my life, and also turned me away from the things that might have actually made a difference.

quantified2d ago

This. Childhood experiences are formative, and the peer environment from early years through adulthood is usually brutal. My expectation is that confidence and grace is evenly distributed at birth, but is added to the physically attractive and denied to the unattractive almost immediately. I've always found the physically-unattractive-but-socially-attractive especially interesting because they've succeeded, often along with a very cool peer group.

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