I think there is a sane debate to have around whether or not we want privacy-preserving age verification, indeed. And how much of a "foot in the door" it is (is it building more surveillance technology, or is it actually building privacy-preserving technology that will counter it?).
My concern is that "society" may want to control social media for kids, and if we say "either you don't do it or you leak the IDs", it may end up on "ok then let's leak the IDs" without even considering the better way.
I am just very frustrated because right now, even in a place like here where it's supposed to be around tech-savvy people, the discussion feels like kids repeating what they heard: "it's like ChatControl, it's fundamentally stupid and impossible".