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0 pointsbreakupapp13y ago0 comments

So what's a good solution to shortening the time it takes to meet one's fiancée?

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Do things. Do things that bring you into contact with other people: namely, working with colleagues, rather than customers. (So a soup kitchen counts, but being a solo consultant doesn't.) When they invite you out for doing stuff, join in. You can back out the second time if you don't enjoy it. Get to know as many of them as you can. Share your interests; listen to theirs.

You'll run into someone interested in you soon enough.

simonh13y ago

+1 Take a community college course in something that you enjoy like history or calligraphy, if it's good enough for Steve Jobs it's good enough for you. Join a local theatre company, even if it's just painting scenery and doing scene changes. Take a fitness course at a local gym. Learn Tai Chi. If you're in the US go backpacking round Mayan ruins in Mexico. If you're into a hobby already, become active in it. If you play roleplaying games, volunteer to help run a convention. At least you'll have something to talk to people about.

breakupappOP13y ago

thanks!

Mz13y ago

Possibly not clubbing to begin with. That does not usually lead to marriage.

jjuliano13y ago

I guess to be sincere, be kind, be supportive and always be prepared to listen, treat love given to you as rare, so don't spoil and throw it away. Be there for her.

That's just my solution though I haven't met mine.

bliker13y ago

I am pretty sure this http://www.artofmanliness.com/ helped me a lot. Not thought dating advice but by helping me to become a better man. I know it sound cheezy, but really you don't really want to trick anyone into marriage.

kayoone13y ago

Dont try too hard.

greenlander13y ago

99% of mainstream dating advice is hogwash.

Learn the truth about women. Start reading:

http://dalrock.wordpress.com/ http://heartiste.wordpress.com/

The best dating advice is concentrated on men who are players or aspire to be. But the skills to seduce a fling and a future wife are very similar.

If you want to catch a great woman, you must have the skills to catch any woman.

taurath13y ago

The above advice is probably really good if you think of women as objects.

sigkill13y ago

If you can have a Class of Human, I don't see the problem having women AND men as objects.

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Mz13y ago

That second site looks like manipulative bullshit to me.

rikthevik13y ago

That's because it _is_ manipulative bullshit! Heartiste is famous for spouting misogynistic garbage. Pretty terrible stuff.

andyking13y ago

To "catch" a woman?

Stick to fishing... it's not 1973 anymore!

illuminate13y ago

"the skills to seduce a fling and a future wife are very similar"

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cargo_cult

illuminate13y ago

Besides that those same "skills" you're developing are going to fuck up your future relationship(s) when you continue to behave like a sociopath.

eli_gottlieb13y ago

Get. The. Hell. Out.

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saraid21613y ago

You'll run into someone interested in you soon enough.

simonh13y ago

breakupappOP13y ago

thanks!

Mz13y ago

Possibly not clubbing to begin with. That does not usually lead to marriage.

jjuliano13y ago

I guess to be sincere, be kind, be supportive and always be prepared to listen, treat love given to you as rare, so don't spoil and throw it away. Be there for her.

That's just my solution though I haven't met mine.

bliker13y ago

kayoone13y ago

Dont try too hard.

greenlander13y ago

99% of mainstream dating advice is hogwash.

Learn the truth about women. Start reading:

http://dalrock.wordpress.com/ http://heartiste.wordpress.com/

The best dating advice is concentrated on men who are players or aspire to be. But the skills to seduce a fling and a future wife are very similar.

If you want to catch a great woman, you must have the skills to catch any woman.

taurath13y ago

The above advice is probably really good if you think of women as objects.

sigkill13y ago

If you can have a Class of Human, I don't see the problem having women AND men as objects.

1 more reply

Mz13y ago

That second site looks like manipulative bullshit to me.

rikthevik13y ago

That's because it _is_ manipulative bullshit! Heartiste is famous for spouting misogynistic garbage. Pretty terrible stuff.

andyking13y ago

To "catch" a woman?

Stick to fishing... it's not 1973 anymore!

illuminate13y ago

"the skills to seduce a fling and a future wife are very similar"

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cargo_cult

illuminate13y ago

Besides that those same "skills" you're developing are going to fuck up your future relationship(s) when you continue to behave like a sociopath.

eli_gottlieb13y ago

Get. The. Hell. Out.

j / k navigate · click thread line to collapse