The OPs proposal was for a daemon so it could be run as a different user. My suggestion was indeed to fork and figure out how to isolate the process (as forking may not be enough if you have permissions to do things like ptrace processes running under the same user).
>Apache could ship a fall-back PKCS#11 driver implementation that did this, transparently.
What you are proposing then is something different. It's to make the only crypto code path the PKCS#11 one and then make the normal case the special case of that. So you are going Apache->Gnutls/OpenSSL->custom PKCS#11 driver->fork->Gnutls/OpenSSL(to actually do the crypto). Since apache already has working code for the first and last steps you could just do Apache->fork->Gnutls/OpenSSL and be done with it. Your suggestion adds more complexity but improves the support for other more exotic PKCS#11 providers.