Intelligent life doesn't want to be found - at least by us.
Intelligent life tends towards simulation, rather than expansion.
Further to the above, we are the only intelligent life in the simulation in which we reside.
Intelligent life is far more of an aberration than we realise.
Intelligent life is actually very dumb on a macro scale, and falls prey to Malthusian collapse, either by falling into a significant energy gap or by destroying their biosphere.
Intelligent life tends to succumb to dysgenic fertility, and ceases to be intelligent.
Therefore the discovery of life on other worlds means little for the Fermi paradox, as our model may grossly oversimplify or overlook one or more variables which lead to us, now.
Personally I think we're in a sim and we're about to lose the game, as we're staring down an energy deficit Malthusian collapse, uh, right now.