At my current employee, people get promoted who put the most hours in, since they then also end up putting more work down and knowing the systems better. I get it, when you work 60 hours each week, you will be the go-to person.
But I wonder what people do with familys? I have friends in the big FAANG companies and smaller open source companies. The hours of work is everywhere the same. You put in over hours and nobody complains since you know, you got a pretty good job and you can't complain.
After so many years however, I lost the ability to oversee bad (project) management and see it more of a: This is badly managed, you should hire two more people for this team etc.
I seem to be in the minority though. So I wonder what other people with families do: Are you switching companies to have saner work hours and "downgrade" your work environment? I really like working with ambitious people, but they I haven't found a company yet with sane hours but also with people eager to learn. I somehow manage to do both, but still fall behind inside bigger corporations.
Any advice or companies who manage both?
One of the rules of XP is "Quit when you're tired." XP is all about going as fast as you can. The fastest you can go involves quitting when you're tired. Stay longer, and your productivity goes down, not just that day but the next, and maybe even the day or two after that.
It sounds like you're working at a place that doesn't understand that. (It also sounds like you're working at a place that is somewhat exploitative.) To get a reasonable life, you may have to leave for somewhere else.
Unfortunately, right at this moment is perhaps not the greatest time to be changing jobs. If your current job is stable and unaffected by Corona, you probably should think twice before you leave - unless you're pretty sure that the new job is also stable and won't be affected by Corona.
Working more hours can lead to bigger impact, but generally that scales linearly. The better route to success and promotion is to focus on the inflection points: the bits that actually move the needle for the entire team / company.
Weirdly, as you become more senior in impact you may actually end up working less. If you have a strong record of delivering the right things then you can push back on unrealistic expectations. In fact, refusing overwork (except on occasion) is a powerful signalling mechanism.
If are effective at your job and your management team doesn't understand then it's time to find a new gig.
In my case, I've accepted that my career is going to advance more slowly, I've weighed up my work/career and my life/happiness/family, and the last one weighed more.
Of course, as other colleagues have said, working smart, finding clients, thinking 80/20, focusing on goals, looking for patterns... and it will probably make the curve more vertical.
Where do you live? I think another variable is the work culture of the country, for example in Spain the work culture is now evolving to allow a better balance between life and work. In other countries in Europe, for example, this mentality of working without overtime is fully established.
Look for other companies I guess ? A good signal for me is when there are loads of people with families in the company whom have worked there for more than 5-10 years.
A red signal is a minority of people being experienced or having families.
I take it you are single and/or have no other family obligations which gives you an “edge”?
The company I work has a lot of very eager and smart people who put 40h a week and have families. They are experts in their field of work (Image processing).
I would say I have been climbing the ladder because I have good soft-skills and strong leadership skills. It happened naturally and was not part of an evil plan or something I tried too hard.
I am OK with not being a programming wizard or using all the latest tech in every project. I am very good in getting people to work together productively and having them delivering projects constantly.
I have gone from Senior to Lead in the past two companies I've been at within 6 months and now am now growing a department.
Then, you can also try to understand what the company leadership truly values. In my experience, most company leaderships truly value impact, not working hours, but it's easy to conflate or even confuse the two; it's even possible that leadership values impact but to other regular employees it may look like they value hours.
In my own experience, companies and leadership that I worked for usually value impact; and over the years, what I've gathered is that the best way to make good impact to the business is to truly understand the business and domain knowledge deeply and communicate effectively, as an engineer. I'm nearing my late 30s with a young kid now and had similar thoughts as you a few years ago. It turns out ultimately what employers care about isn't the amount of hours I put in; but rather if I understand the business and domain deeply, I can correctly spend my time on the most impactful things; and can communicate these things effectively. I have hardly ever worked over hours in my past 2 years at my current company; and am still highly valued.
On a totally different note though, it is also worth considering taking up a less intense role (if that truly is a problem at your current place) during the first year or two of your fatherhood. It's well worth the break time from developing your career to spend much needed time with family instead -- not just the baby, but your spouse who'll no doubt need you to be there for very much. Part of my reasoning to switch away from my last job was for this; and it just so happened that I also ended up at a good (remote) company that isn't all about working hours but good impact.
This is eloquently put. Resonated with me. Would you mind getting in touch offline for a short discussion and help answer some questions of mine? I will take a No as well. :)
The answer is simple. If you don't want to work overtime then don't do it and see what will happen. Most likely nothing.
Think about how you can deliver move value to the company by working smart instead of putting more hours (hint: automate your job, try to bring new clients).
In my case, I've just randomly stumbled upon into it some time ago and I'll probably stick with it for as long as possible (Before that, I've mostly had jobs that I felt were a not a great fit). Unfortunately, "randomly stumbling upon" is not much of a strategy, but I guess it's points to changing jobs often. I don't believe that the important aspects of a job can be sussed out during an interview, so you essentially need to take a chance on a job, join the company and, if that's not what you were looking for, leave 1-2 years later. Repeat until satisfied.
Thats it, otherwise you have to work hard like everyone else.
Did this for two and a half years. My boss quit and took me with him to a better gig. Your network is your net worth.
If the company is growing quickly you will be promoted quickly. If it is getting smaller people get laid-off demoted. If it's holding steady than working extra hours might make you more valuable if someone leaves.
Working 20 more hours only marginally increases your chances. Marry the owners daughter would work better.
