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0 pointscodelikeawolf1y ago0 comments

Well, unfortunately nobody did invent a new word. Considering a cursory search of the definitions of both words:

Kind: of a sympathetic or helpful nature

Nice: pleasing, agreeable

I would argue that they are actually different.

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Merriam Webster literally lists "kind" as one of the definitions of nice.

The point is that nice is a pretty broad term. It can mean agreeable but that's merely one use of the word. You can be nice and not agreeable.

ffsm81y ago

I think you're misunderstanding the point they were making.

The given example for nice

> nice would be to let the person working for you continue to perform poorly without feedback, being "nice" to them, but privately considering them incompetent.

Is actually being hypocritical, not nice. The nice person would still tell the under performing person what's what, they'd just not be rude about it.

You can also create a scenario in which being kind becomes detrimental if taken to the extreme. However, the author of that book decided that being nice was bad, and being kind was good. This understandably continues to annoy people when this frankly dumb definition is brought up.

mgh21y ago

Most people are nice (convention, norm, culture, etc.) to conform to a set of rules, being kind is the exception to the rule.

BeetleB1y ago

Yet another faulty categorization and coopting - this time of both words.

Kind is only the exception to the norm if you're in a crappy culture. In some places the ethic is such that kindness is the norm.

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0 pointscodelikeawolf1y ago0 comments

Well, unfortunately nobody did invent a new word. Considering a cursory search of the definitions of both words:

Kind: of a sympathetic or helpful nature

Nice: pleasing, agreeable

I would argue that they are actually different.

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BeetleB1y ago

Merriam Webster literally lists "kind" as one of the definitions of nice.

The point is that nice is a pretty broad term. It can mean agreeable but that's merely one use of the word. You can be nice and not agreeable.

ffsm81y ago

I think you're misunderstanding the point they were making.

The given example for nice

> nice would be to let the person working for you continue to perform poorly without feedback, being "nice" to them, but privately considering them incompetent.

Is actually being hypocritical, not nice. The nice person would still tell the under performing person what's what, they'd just not be rude about it.

mgh21y ago

Most people are nice (convention, norm, culture, etc.) to conform to a set of rules, being kind is the exception to the rule.

BeetleB1y ago

Yet another faulty categorization and coopting - this time of both words.

Kind is only the exception to the norm if you're in a crappy culture. In some places the ethic is such that kindness is the norm.

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