If I’m reclusive, people consider me detracted and dull to be around and nobody wants to do much with the dull, reclusive man.
If I’m open and friendly, I find that people don’t take me as serious and I potentially miss out on promotions and raises. Why give the man who’s happy a “please stay” raise? He’s happy! Why give him a promotion? We need somebody who’s not so friendly with people and is looked at as a leader not a peer. I also find it’s hard to be seen as a leader amongst peers if you’re friendly with them.
How does one balance these two extremes? I want to be friendly and kind but I also want people to take me seriously.
